YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH

 YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH

Do you ever feel like no matter what you do or how hard you try, it's never good enough? Just as the picture above demonstrates, you need to burn that thought from your brain. It can be easy to think that you are not good enough, but once you have those negative thoughts, you will start believing them.

It is a mindset to get yourself into, stop being afraid of what could go wrong, and start believing in the question of what could go right. If you continue to focus on how far away your success looks, then you will never feel that it is within reach. Step by step, you will continue to do better than you did before. The big issue is the 'self-fulfilling prophecy." If you think you're not good enough, then you won't be. 

You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress all at the same time. Everyone has a piece of good news within them. The good news is YOU don't know how great you can be and what you can accomplish. And what your potential is. This is paraphrased from the words of Anne Frank. Life offers new beginnings every day, and all we must do is make room for them.

Self-love must come from within, not from outside sources. The excuse of not having enough time needs to be kicked out the window. Not knowing where to start? Well, the easiest way is at the beginning. Slowly. Research what it is that you want to do and take small steps to accomplish your dream. It could be to learn Spanish, to knit, to go for a new career, or to try a new challenging hobby? The list goes on and on. 

It is that brain of ours telling us no! What if? And I say, yes, exactly what if! What if you never find that happiness or fulfillment that you crave? So we need to have a conversation with our brains. Let it know who is the BOSS.

The important thing to remember is that a belief is just a thought that you continue to think over and over. It is NOT written in stone. 

You Can Be a Masterpiece and a Work in Progress at the Same Time

DON'T GROW OLD

DON'T GROW OLD

Right now, I am sure that you are saying to yourself that growing old is inevitable. Well, I am here to say that it is not if you look at in through a different mindset.

Try reading and letting this Irish saying sink in.

 

It makes a lot of sense. Age really is just a number. It is what you make of it. I love a quote from Albert Einstein:

"Do not grow old, no matter how long you live. Never cease to stand like curious children before the great mystery into which we were born."

In reality, we should all approach life in this way. The phrase 'age is just a number' implies that age should not be a barrier to the choices someone makes or the things they want to achieve. It emphasizes that a person's abilities and interests aren't solely determined by their age.

It is a reminder used to help inspire us to follow our dreams and not to be constrained by societal expectations regarding age. Zeal and enthusiasm can remain vibrant regardless of how old one is. Age is no barrier. It is a limitation that we put on ourselves, according to Jackie Joyner-Kersee.

We can't help getting older, but we don't have to get old. There are 70+ year olds running marathons and doing so much more than many much younger than themselves. Now, admittedly running is not my thing but if it were, my age should not slow me down in training for it. 

I hope that everyone, no matter their age, continues to make their dreams come true and to try new things. Age indeed has no barrier, and we are never too old to learn. I feel as if I am not getting older; I am getting better. 

Here is another way to look at it:

Someone who is fifteen years older than I am needs to be thinking this same way! ❤️

 

STEPPING OUT OF MY BOX

 STEPPING OUT OF MY BOX

There are times when I feel safe and secure in my own little world. On the other hand, it can also be a bit boring. There are things to see and do, people to meet, and new adventures all around. For me, it takes a little investigating to decide what I want to try next. 

One point to remember is that we are never too old to try new things. I don't think jumping out of a plane with a parachute is exactly for me, but I am not ruling it out. "Never say never," as they say. At this time, I am thinking more along the lines of my creative side. I am already writing a blog and working on some books.

Also, I followed in the path of my grandmother and started painting on my own a few years ago. I did watercolors, acrylics, and still love painting. 

 

Then...I discovered art lessons that were being given nearby where I live. The new adventure was that the painting is in oil paint. The big news is that the artist teaching it was a co-worker of mine. She is a very accomplished artist. I took my list of supplies to the Art Center store, and to be honest, I did not know what some of the items were for. I was most definitely an amateur. But hey! This is where the new adventure comes into play. Stepping out of my comfort zone. After my first lesson...I truly did find out that it was a new adventure. Yet, it was not something that terrified me. It was something that excited me. 

We were to bring a picture that we would like to learn how to paint with oils. I chose my dear sweet goldendoodle but in a whimsical form.

Here is the picture of Maggie Mae that I want to end up with. Well...at least where others can tell that it is a cute little doodle. I am going to work very hard to accomplish this task. And, in upcoming blogs, I will post what my final picture looks like. If it is not exactly like what I expect, my other goal is to learn how to get to where I need to be. 

This creative undertaking can be unnerving. I simply do not want to just stare at a blank canvas. It is a matter of taking the proper steps to move ahead. There really is no particular right first step. The important thing is to take the step. Whew! The first step is accomplished. 

I will grow as a painter. And, I can't wait to continue stepping outside of my box.

LESSONS TO LEARN FROM DOGS

LESSONS TO LEARN FROM DOGS

There are so many ways that dogs are superior to humans. Do they need humans to help them through life? YES! In reality, we humans need them to teach us some of the very basics of life. They have some things "down pat." These are things that we as humans seem to have trouble with at times. Just to name a few, please read on:

• Delight in the simplicity of a long walk...

• Never pass up opportunities to enjoy a nice drive, to romp and play, and to experience the fresh air in your face.
  

• Greeting those who come home with hugs and happiness.

• The best practice of taking a good nap.

• Of course, after napping, it is so very important to remember how to stretch your body out for the full benefit.

• When someone is having a tough day, it is so important to just nuzzle up to them -- no words are necessary.

Dogs are so very loyal and love you just for YOU! No pretending to be something that you are not. Even when they need a scolding, they run right back to you and make friends. They also know when it is not important enough for a bite; a simple growl will work, especially when someone has invaded your territory.

They remember to drink lots of water on hot days and the importance of staying cool, even if it is under a shade tree. 

Best of all? When they are happy they just simply dance around and wag their entire body.

STRESS EATING - IS IT A PROBLEM?

 STRESS EATING

IS IT A PROBLEM?

If you answered yes, trust me, you are not alone. Many of us suffer from emotional eating. When we are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, our bodies pump out cortisol, which is a hormone that kicks off the "fight or flight instinct" within us. Cortisol actually increases our appetites, and those extra calories can give us the fuel to fight to stay alive. Alas, we do not live in the caveman days when we needed that energy to fight off saber-toothed tigers.

Food is available 24/7 nowadays. It is legal. It is easy to obtain and let's face it...it feels good. So it is no wonder that so many of us make a straight line for food whenever we are feeling stressed. What we need to do in order to help ourselves is to find out ways to put an end to it. 

Our brains can feel stressed and overwhelmed from events that happen every day. We just need to learn what the best way is for us to control this natural instinct. We need to find what will help us break the habit of stress eating and build healthier habits for an exchange.

One is to pause for a moment of mindfulness. Stressful eating is automatic. So it is a matter of taking a moment to STOP, Take a breath, Observe how we are feeling (are we really hungry or just stressed?) and then Pick an option that suits our feeling. Is it food that we really need or would a soothing activity?

To find a soothing activity for ourselves, Dr. Albers, a clinical psychologist, suggests the 5-5-5-5-5 exercise. That means to write down:

*5 people who you can call when you are feeling down or upset and may need to vent. 

*5 ways you like to relax may include taking a hot shower, a bubble bath, or just putting your feet up and closing your eyes for a moment. 

*5 places that you can go to calm down (your bed, your favorite park, a walk in the neighborhood with your dog). 

*5 things that you can say to yourself, such as, "I can do this, or this too shall pass!" 

*5 activities that you can do to distract yourself, like start a puzzle, watch a movie, or run an errand.

We all need to let go of the shame of stress eating. This is all self-judgment or internalizing words from someone who has made you feel bad about yourself when you overeat or your weight.

Instead of being so negative, try being curious and ask yourself questions such as:

*What prompted this urge?

*Why am I so stressed?

*What's making me feel so overwhelmed?

*What would make me feel better?

Sometimes, a little bit of stress eating is not always a bad thing. It just needs to be controlled and thought through before you choose that donut or those chips and dip. If you are feeling out of control and it becomes the major way that you deal with stress, then there lies the problem.

Trying some of the suggestions that I found through research should help. If they don't seem to be helping, then finding a therapist who can help you deal with stress management may be your answer.

IT REALLY IS THE LITTLE THINGS

 IT REALLY IS THE LITTLE THINGS

Sometimes we say to ourselves, "Oh don't sweat the little things." Actually, we should not get 'bent out of shape with them, however, we should realize that they really make up the big things that really do matter.

Spring has sprung and I don't know what it is like at your house in the early mornings but here, the birds are tweeting away. So loudly, in fact, that I don't even need my alarm clock. It is such a small thing and I do feel sad for anyone who can't take the time to listen to them for a moment for a happy start to their day. 

Really it is all about being happy in the moment that you are in. Embrace it instead of skipping over to what may possibly be even better. Enjoy the here and the now...minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. These are the moments you will look back on and remember. Make it a good memory instead of a blur.

In these hurried times it is too easy to miss the special moments that count. Why not have your coffee of tea in the special china. Serve your water in a beautiful glass with a wedge of lime or lemon on the side. Paper plates? Only for a to-go meal. Otherwise, take the time to have your meals on real dishes with silverware. Many times, I believe that we can get caught up in a rush and forget these little things. We are worth that little extra effort.

It is the same in relationships. It matters to do the little things for each other. Make a special note for your partner's or your child's lunch. A special text or call can let them know that you are thinking of them. These are the things that truly matter in the long run.

Picking up little inexpensive gifts along the way for giving when the moments are right. These are the kinds of things that put smiles on so many faces. It is also amazing to see those surprised reactions in our own hearts.

It becomes fun to just get creative in finding ways to make little things come to life for others and therefore for yourself. 

Those who bring sunshine into the lives of others cannot keep it from themselves.

SETBACKS AND STRESS FACTORS

 SETBACKS AND STRESS FACTORS

Who has not ever experienced a setback? It can be at a very young age when you did not get that toy you 'needed' more than anything else. Or maybe a day(s) at school that you got in trouble for talking when you should not have been, passing notes, or chewing gum - whatever it was you broke a rule and had a consequence or let's say a SETBACK that caused stress.

As a child that was incredibly embarrassing for most of us, as an adult, setbacks usually are a bit more serious. The consequences can bring so much more stress to our lives.

However, there is something that we as adults tend to forget or overlook. "Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it."  ~Charles R. Swindoll~

We might not be able to control what happens to us, but we sure can control our responses and attitudes. I can see some of you right this very minute thinking about what kind of person has that sort of optimism. After reading a few books, I realized that life will always throw us curveballs and give us setbacks. These can actually reshape our lives depending on how we respond and handle the stress it caused.

Handling our attitudes is not always an easy thing to do. If we can train ourselves to work on that then we can honestly say to ourselves that we never lose. We either win or we learn. A good friend of mine got me hooked on the Mel Robbins podcasts. I can truly say that I have learned so much from her theories. The main one is the 'Let Them Theory.' It sounds so easy and really it is and can help to make our lives so much easier and less stressful. 

There is a second step though. After you have a setback say to yourself, "Let them!" The next step is, "Let me!" By that, I mean that the 'them' caused you anxiety and/or a setback. So the next step after you say to yourself, "Let them," is to say, "Let me....." You need to have a plan on how you will handle the anxiety or setback. Let them downsize and do away with my job. We then have a choice. Will we go away with our tails between our legs and cry a river? Well, let's be honest. Most of us would want to do this. And it is a natural thing to do. As long as you move forward from that point promptly. For example we need to reassess our life. What is it that I want to do that I could not do because of the hours I had working at my old job? It may be a pay cut for a while, yet in the long run is it something that you have always wanted to do. YOU get to choose.

Let me give you my own personal example. I did lose my soulmate of 20 years about 2 1/2 years ago. I was devastated. I really did not think that I could go on. The stress of losing him caused me so much grief that I went into hibernation. It was not a happy place to be. I was lucky in that I had an unbelievable support system of friends and family. My precious daughter actually moved in with me to take care of me. This was a huge job for her. We thought it might not be for long. We would see how it worked. I went through a phase of stressful eating. I probably had about 40 lbs to lose but all of a sudden it was now 100. With the extra weight, my joints were so achy that I had to force myself to get up and out of bed each morning. I was no help to anyone. Let's just say that I was miserable.

When I realized that nothing that I was doing was helping me or anyone else, plus I now did not know where I would go for clothing once the big girl sizes were too small...I had to do something drastic. If only I had some of the knowledge that I have gained now back then. The important thing is that I finally had a light bulb go on. DO SOMETHING! AND I DID!

Information was given to me about how I could learn healthy eating habits and not only lose weight, save money doing it, but also learn how to maintain it. Since that time of having the weight MELT off me, I have kept it off now for a year. I continue to monitor it closely and stay on a maintenance program. I like to call it the 80/20 program. Whatever works is good. And I know that the change in my attitude is what got me to this place and is helping me to continue to stay healthy.

I have much less struggle with arthritis in my knees and even days of not even taking a Tylenol/Advil for pain. My sleeping scores turned around. Luckily, I did not have high blood pressure or other issues. I did have to donate basically 75% of my clothing. Too big is too big. Luckily, I saved some things that I loved in the back of my closet and now they fit me. Never did I think that I would fit in them again. Let's just call it wishful thinking.

Life will always be stressful. Things are going on in our country and the world that I have no immediate control over. There are only certain things that I can do. Those are the things that I focus on. Let me just take on what I personally can handle and not let what is out of my control get me stressed out. LET ME handle my own attitudes. I can't help how others may feel and deal with their issues. 

The 'Let Them/Let Me' theory can make everyone feel more in control of their lives. It works!