Sunday, May 13, 2018

Advice for Girls? I Hope Not!

Just a few weeks ago, I saw a poster somewhere that was titled, "Advice For Girls." It is credited to someone named Spencer McFarland. I did try googling him, looked him up for an author on Amazon and really nothing, nothing at all appeared. One or two little articles, of which I could not tell if the articles were being sarcastic about the 'Advice' or vice versa.

Anyway, I will let you read it for yourself and then if you care to, you can read my thoughts on this advice. I would love to have comments.

Maybe I took it too seriously, however, I do not believe that anyone should tell female or male to be loud and gross and take up space. That is just sheer rudeness. As for not saying, "Sorry, No or None of Your Business," there are many other approaches to take. 

First of all, it takes all of one second to say that you are sorry about something. It could be something that you said or did that really hurt someone's feelings. It shows that you, as a human being, have some empathy. There most definitely are times that you must say the no word to someone. There is a right way and a wrong way to say it. Being a true hot-headed person just yelling out, "No" makes you seem like a toddler throwing a fit in the store because you did not get your way. As for "None of Your Business," is there a more creative way to get around a subject matter that truly is none of someone else's business and showed their lack of social and emotional intelligence. Do you really want to accept the invitation to more drama? Or end it right there on the spot with a clever answer? 

There are many places to read up on quotes that sound much more intelligent than just a none of your business. Be creative and find some of these. Parents may have to help younger children, guide middle age children, however, we as adults can most definitely find our way in the book genre of self-help. There is a huge difference in standing up for ourselves in a positive way versus the negative way. I am still not too sure which way Spencer McFarland was trying to lead us. Being snide and sarcastic reminds me of The Grinch. Is that what we want to teach our children or to emulate that kind of behavior ourselves? Surely, that is not a good role model?

There are some areas in his paragraph that can be positive. Yes, take some fun selfies and celebrate the moment. You just don't need to be inappropriately clothed as some of the famous young women. (And to show just how old I am, I don't even know what they are famous for??) By all means, please don't laugh at jokes that you don't think are funny, because they probably aren't. The person telling the jokes should know this. If they have to explain their jokes, it is not funny.

Wear your hair the way you like it and pick out what makes you who you are as an individual. You do not need to always go with the pack. If you are comfortable with it, that is what matters. Let's always take a stand to help one another.  WE do not have to put our comfort zone on hold for others' egos. WE do need to recognize when someone needs us and our wants can wait until a larger crisis is dealt with. That is the way it is done.

Last, but not least, when I get mad, I am careful about how vocal I get. It pays to check out all of the facts before going crazy on someone. More often than not, I have learned that the person who vocalizes their anger the loudest is the one who comes out last. 

As Maya Angelou said, "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."  Always strive to leave a positive impression!

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